Unrealistic Goals

    Set unrealistic goals

 

I was scanning the internet while watching TV when I came across this quote:

“Set unrealistic goals…”

Seriously?

Did I just read that?

Often we’re told to set goals; It’s how we’ll achieve.

There are many things that goal-setting can do for us.

To find direction in areas of our life

To gain control

To create long-term vision

To improve performance

To motivate us to succeed

To identify results

These are just a few of many reasons that you might create goals.

I like creating goals, myself. It helps me with direction and discipline and I love seeing the light at the end of the rainbow and finally achieving that goal that I thought at first was so far away. So when I came across this quote it took me a little by surprise.

Why would anyone want to set an unrealistic goal?

Isn’t an unrealistic goal unachievable?

Why would you want to put that kind of stress in your life?

 

When we set a realistic goal we know we can and will achieve it, but to set an unrealistic one means we have to stretch ourselves. We have to learn to do things that we’ve never done before… maybe even something that’s never been done before by anyone else.

If we only set realistic goals, there would never be anything new.

The light bulb was unrealistic, so was walking on the moon.

I’m sure glad that Einstein didn’t limit himself!

 

Have you ever been told that something you wanted was unrealistic?

Have you ever told yourself something you wanted was unrealistic?

If you had no constraints on your abilities, no restrictions from lack of funds, or no limits on your imagination, what would you really want to do?

 

There’s always going to be someone out there who will tell you you can’t achieve your goal.

 

Dream big and fly high.

Research

 

 

If you know me at all, you know I’m always looking up things online.

I love to learn.

I have this insatiable thirst for knowledge.

My husband just laughs at me. We will be sitting at night, resting, watching our favorite show, usually on Netflix or Acorn TV, when all of a sudden, I’m pull out my phone or laptop and begin to look up the true facts about whatever person or object the show just happens to mention.

 

I know many people don’t like the fact that they’re always connected to the internet, but I find it exhilarating. I’m one of those people that just has to know. I can’t take somebody’s answer as fact. I never could.

 

I guess that’s why I like writing historical fiction so much. Half the fun for me is the . Sometimes I get so absorbed with the new facts and details I’m learning, that I end up doing more research than writing. I guess that’s good when you’re learning about a part of history that is not readily known to you. But I get that way even about things that I do know something about.

 

Truth be told, I can easily jump from subject to subject and end up looking up something that is completely opposite from where I started.

 

But that’s fine.

It’s amazing being able to spend time doing something you love.

Scary Goals

 

I was thinking about the book that I’m writing at the moment.

It’s a sequel to my first book, but very different in many ways. I’m tackling some issues that are going to be hard to communicate and still remain PG. The end is also very complicated and to make it work, I’m going to have to be very creative.

I don’t want to say too much, because… who likes spoilers? But what I’m thinking of doing, I don’t recall ever reading before. Can I do it? Is it something that a publisher will look at and think “this is too different, I don’t think it will fly with readers?

 

This scares me and to tell the truth, I came very close to tossing out the whole idea and try to write something “safer”. After all, it’s not like I am already some famous writer that can draw an audience just by putting my name on the cover.

 

I was struggling to write this morning, when I came across this saying above.

“A goal should scare you a little and excite you a lot”.

Well, that sure sums up how I feel about this project. I keep thinking that if I could pull this off and write what is in my heart, this book will be amazing.

I can’t wait to see the end result. I hope you’ll come along on this journey with me as I try to create what just might be impossible.

A Time for everything.

There’s a time for everything under the sun

A time to laugh, a time to cry.

A time to plant, a time to sow.

A time to … Write!

Ok, so this isn’t exactly how this passage goes, but I think it very well could… for me anyway.

There are times when, as much as you love something, it’s still hard to find, or make, the time to complete it. Life gets so busy and there are so many things that need to be packed into our days.

Even as much as I love to write, I still find it hard to fit the time into my days. There are several reasons for this and as I began to go over them in my mind, I found myself putting together a short list of things to help me create the time needed and to use that time more effectively.

 

  1. Forget Perfection

Part of my problem stems from the fact that I want everything to be perfect right from the first line. I can spend hours on a few paragraphs. I’ll rewrite the same chapter a gazillion times. This can get in the  way when I’m trying to pull together a first draft of a novel. I have to force myself to keep writing and avoid going back for a “quick re-read.” This can be especially difficult when I’m picking up after a day or  two break or if I’ve had to stop mid-thought.

I am reminded of the solution for this at this time each year when NaNoWriMo season occurs. I really can write a full first draft in thirty days or less, but I have to create that competition mindset within me. For me, it can take more discipline to not look back over my last chapter than it does to put other obligations on hold and sit down at the keyboard itself.

 

  1. Just Do It

Just write!  This can be more difficult than it sounds. I have no fancy problem-solving tool for this. It just has to be done. My only suggestion on this is; don’t wait until you have “enough” time. I often find myself making the excuse that I only have a few minutes and therefore, I don’t have the time to complete a thought. This is a trap. Write! Short and simple. If you only have time to put ten words down, put those ten words down! After all, I’ve never let that excuse stop me from reading “just one more line of my book” at the stop sign!

Just one hint though, avoid pulling out your computer while driving. Even though I’ve never actually seen this law written on a driving test, I’m sure it’s hidden there someplace. I have often used my hands-free device to send myself a message and written almost a full chapter on my way to work.

 

  1. Enjoy

This is my last thought for today. Use what helps you. This is going to be different for every writer. Do you write best at night? Write at night. Do you need music or solitude? Are you a people person and feed off the energy around you?

Try different avenues. Maybe you even need different conditions for different types of scenes.

I, personally, find that I need quiet and solitude in order to write an intense emotional scene, but I use the energy of those around me when I’m inserting comedy.

We each have our own best ways of writing. The operative word here, is WRITE!

 

One last note that I’m sure my editor would insert here, if she could. Avoid sending your work in at every stage. This is a wall I hit when completing my first novel. I think she must have edited those first few chapters a hundred times. I’m sure she thought five times was more than enough!

Thanks for everything, Deb! You’re amazing and I could never do this without you!

Try her for yourself at debsedit.com

Stop Helping!

Exodus 36 5-7

And they said to Moses, “The people are bringing much more than enough for the construction work which the Lord commanded us to perform.” So Moses issued a command, and a proclamation was circulated throughout the camp, saying, “Let no man or woman any longer perform work for the contributions of the sanctuary.” Thus the people were restrained from bringing any more. For the material they had was sufficient and more than enough for all the work, to perform it.

 

 Just a short thought for today,

What would this be like? Can you just imagine?

What would happen in our lives, communities and word if our hearts were so attuned to the needs or others around us that we gave so unselfishly? How would the world change around us?

“Please stop giving. I have too much. Go help someone else”

How would the church grow?

Lord, create this attitude within me